Stop Complaining

We all know that life wasn’t meant to go your way all the time. This state of uncertainity is designed to help us grow into the kind of human beings we can be, to help us understand how we fit into the larger scheme of things, and to prevent our minds and bodies from declining in a state of inertia.

So, in many ways, disappointment is an indispensable part of life. Without it, we would become complacent and slothful, success and love wouldn’t fill our hearts with as much joy, and there would be no push towards improving ourselves.

However, when circumstances take twists and turns we can't predict, we often feel discouraged. And we feel the need to complain. Some people feel it’s a right. The so-called logic is “If the world is treating me unkindly, why shouldn’t I make some noise about it?”

Well, the “noise” may release some tension initially, but complaining doesn’t solve anything. Besides, it conditions a negative mindset. It forces us to unwittingly dwell on what's wrong in our lives instead of focusing on what we can change or do to make things right. When complaining becomes a part of you, you’re inviting a lot of negative energy into your life.

When something goes differently than we had planned or when something that's difficult pops up unexpectedly, we should allow ourselves to feel the confusion, anger, or whatever other emotion comes along as a result.

But once you have vented, stop yourself from dwelling on the thing that caused the negative emotion. Quit complaining. When you complain, you tell several people over and over about what went wrong. Your mind is hooked onto the horrible thing. You bring others and yourself down by your complaining. You become stuck in your own whiny, nagging slime.

So, after venting, allow yourself to pick up the pieces and see where you can proceed from where you are. What can you do to make things better? How can you respond so that achieving your main priority is still your focus? Think about things that have turn out right in your life. Appreciate what you have been able to achieve so far and give credit to it.

By asking yourself questions and recollecting past positive moments, your mind accepts what has just happened and moves on to what will happen next. It uses the lessons you just learned as corrective feedback to help you stay on track with your goal or to help you determine a new one with a focus.

So go ahead and let it out, but quit complaining. You will be in a much better position to handle things when they don't go your way.