The Way To Happiness

It's been told that happiness is a journey, not a destination. Then again, many of us make the mistake of denying ourselves joy until something happens - until we get a promotion, until we get our dream house, until we clinch that million-dollar contract.

Happiness can be elusive, but if we follow these simple steps, we may yet attain it faster and with less strife than we think.

Are you overwhelmed by a sense of dread when you try something new every time? Positive and spirited people focus on what is possible rather than dwell on the chances for failure. They look at the brighter side and find humour even in sticky situations.

This also extends to inner judgements. Minimise being self-critical, when we need to practice a little kindness towards ourselves. Take note of your own thoughts - what do you tell yourself about how you are handling things? Perhaps you did make a mistake, but you were exhausted.

Do you complete one task only to rush on to the next? Similarly you may meet challenges of a more personal nature, such as having a difficult conversation with a loved one, without acknowledging your own effort. It's important to absorb the satisfaction from your achievements.

Some people believe the world owes them - and they are entitled to "the good life" and all its benefits. They become bitter when setbacks happen and tangible rewards stay out of reach.

We need to ask ourselves - what can I offer to other people? What can I contribute to my family, my community or the world at large that is align with my skills and abilities? Sarah Bernhardt, a flamboyant French actress in the late 1800s showed uncommon wisdom when she mentioned, "It is by spending oneself that one becomes rich."

Recognizing our life values, determining how we want to achieve them and taking steps to act on them is self-empowering and fulfilling. When you able to understand that you are doing what is most important to you, your happiness level shoots right up.

No one likes feeling wedged. It is essential to know what you really want and then take some action towards it. Even if progress is slow, do not be disheartened as you will feel better going in the right direction.

No matter how stressed you are, take a break from your routine to admire the simple things around you or share coffee with a friend. It is the moments which make us happiest - yet so many of them slip by unnoticed.