Dealing With Disappointments

Someone once mentioned, "No appointments, no disappointments."

We experience these somewhat similar emotions when we have created expectations relating what we will receive from others, life or even from ourselves. We might also feel such emotions relating our own abilities or efforts when we are unable to achieve the goals we desire.

We feel this way when things do not go the way we expected, or more often, when others are not who we expected them to be. We form expectations, and then feel cheated when we they are not fulfilled.

When we succumb to such feelings, we often give up making any further effort, which in turn hampers our growth. In order to manage disappointment, we have to first understand that we are all in a process of evolution and that no one is perfect. It is irrational to expect or demand perfection from ourselves or others. We would not be here in this evolutionary process if we did not have much to progress.

Have faith in the flow of life. There is a wisdom greater than ours. Something drives the turtle to return to their birthplace to lay eggs upriver. Something unfurls the flowers at dawn and closes them in the evening. Something makes the penguins to go out and come back fish for his/her mate. We don't yet fully understand what that something is, but there's no denying it's there. So instead of demanding results at once, we need to learn that change, manifestation and creation are usually slow organic processes.

Now this is challenging to do when faced with disappointment - having confidence that with patience, practice and perseverance, we can manifest the changes we seek. But it's crucial that we develop greater trust in our ability to manifest our goals and life purpose with or without the help of specific persons.

See how you can attain greater self-sufficiency. When we are independent, we need less from others and will expect less from them too. What are the voids in your life you now require others to fill? How can you work towards in filling them yourself?