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Monday 26 May 2008

Feel Good Factor

Some of us were born with obvious talent in some area. For the rest of us though, it can be unclear exactly what we're good at. We may go through the early part of our lives feeling mediocre or even below average, because other kids seem to have innate gifts that we don't seem to possess.

Well, we're all good at something. We're not all geniuses, of course, but we're all born with, or have the ability to develop, the aptitude to do exceptionally well in some sphere. Some of us just haven't discovered it yet. Or perhaps we simply don't recognise it as a talent.

Some of us find it difficult to feel good about ourselves also because we talk negatively to ourselves. Some of us take criticism badly. Some of us are so insecure that we rarely venture beyond what we're used to. As a result, we become trapped, not daring to try anything new, yet wishing for things to become better.

Once you've convinced yourself that you're good for nothing, it can be difficult to restore a healthy sense of self-worth. But here are a few simple things you can do to help you feel better about yourself.

Remember when you were a child playing at the beach? And you built your first sandcastle? It might have looked more like the ruins of a sandcastle, but it made you feel good. There was a sense of "Hey, look what I did!".

Think of ways you can feel this way again. Look around you, at home, at work; try to discover new and more effective ways of doing things. Maybe you could re-organise your space. Put up some curtains. When someone asks for your advice on something, don't see it as an inconvenience. Share your knowledge! Assemble a shelf. Try a new recipe. Maybe even create one! Paint a picture.

You don't have to announce your accomplishment to the world. Whether people know about your achievements or not is not important. The quest for external validation is what made you feel inferior in the first place.

As you try out new things, you'll discover what you're good at, or what you have genuine talent in. It doesn't have to be a grand or revered skill. Just something that gives you a sense of achievement. Cultivate that ability, and feel the joy and passion of living returning to you.

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